Flaking out of truth or dare

When I was in sixth grade, we were at a party at my friend's house. Trying to get away from her parents, we ventured to a nearby field so that we could talk about things we were not comfortable discussing in the presence of adults.

We sat down and decided it was a perfect time to play truth or dare. The minute this suggestion was mentioned, my heart skipped a beat. I had a boyfriend, and he was not there. Boyfriends in sixth grade, however, meant that I stopped talking to him as soon as we started going out. Never kissed; nothing.

When the game came to be, someone dared me to kiss a very cute boy in the circle. I had no emotional attachment to my current boyfriend, but the thought of kissing a boy made me sick to my stomach. I had never kissed anyone, let alone in front of a group of my friends.

I just couldn't stomach the courage to do it. So, I did what any prude, adolescent girl would do. I flaked out. I competently explained to all of my friends that I would never cheat on my boyfriend, especially when he was not part of the game.

The others encouraged me to do it anyway, but I stood strong. They teased me, but the game continued and I had successful gotten out of my first kiss in a truth or dare game. Directly after my turn, my friend was up and she was dared to bring her boyfriend to the woods and kiss him for five minutes.

The two popular lovebirds skipped to the trees and performed their dare happily. This made me feel even worse, but looking back I am glad that I stood up for myself instead of giving in to peer pressure.

• Read tips on kissing from a 6th grader

Even for people who don't identify with the stereotype of "Emo," there is often an attraction to the dark hair, pale skin, and individual way of expressing yourself that Emo's have.

When a person identifies as Emo, they subscribe to a stereotype, but one which rejects conventional ideas and values expression of oneself.

Many people simply enjoy the style or look of Emo girls, but others are attracted to the way that they are more up front about issues and concerns. Emo girls may not bother with the pretense of innocence or girliness as it is usually portrayed in western media.

If an Emo girl has a problem, she'll tell you instead of waiting for you to guess it. Having an Emo girl as your girlfriend may be difficult, but at least you know up front what you are getting, and will not later be surprised when your girlfriend has issues.

Let's face it, everyone has issues, so wouldn't you like to know about them up front? If Emo girls are so liberated, one might expect them to make better girlfriends.

This begs the question, are Emo girls kissing guys like you? If they are, is their kissing up to par? There are several Youtube videos which would suggest that Emo kisses are simply hotter than normal ones.

When the characters in "The Notebook" kiss, what makes it better is the pain we know was involved in their relationship. It's the light in a sea of dark.

When we see Emo girls kissing, it's a taste of that; but without the dementia. Is this really the truth? Though countless videos would have us believe that emo girls kissing us would be the best thing that could possibly occur in life, is your everyday average emo girl as great as these youtube superstars? First, let's think of why a person might become Emo.

Wanting to fit into a group, or because of some personal trauma. Neither of these reasons is particularly promising for someone looking to find an experienced kisser.

Videos portray Emo girls as the cool type, with boyfriends or girlfriends, and probably a large circle of friends as well. In reality, this is usually not the case.

An Emo Girl
(Photo from scene_queenz)

To find this type of girl, you want to target the type who is only in it for the fashion. These girls just like the dark look, and take good care of them. They are unlikely to have the same personal trauma or social inadequacies as a "real" Emo kid.

So when you see Emo girls kissing on youtube, twitter, tumblr, or any of those edgy social networks, stop and think. Is this the socially awkward girl in your algebra class, or is it an overly made-up girl who is just posing at being Emo?

Finally, do you really care?

The hardest ages of a girl's life are when she is just able to get into high school and it just worsens as the days go on of them being there.

Kids are mean and have no problem pointing one person out and just start making fun of them in front of others. This eventually turns into other people making fun of them as well.

Emo Girls
(Photo from scene_queenz)

No one really understands how it feels to hurt someone unless it is happening to them. Almost every teen is the victim if not the follower of making fun of others.

People express how they feel in their attire because, that is what gets them noticed. Emo girls are getting more and more numerous all around the world due to the fact that so many girls feel unaccepted.

They are silently screaming for help and demanding the attention that any teenage girl deserves. You will often see Emo girls kissing because, according to the "cliques" description many of them if not most of them have to be bisexual or even lesbians.

Off course this is no parent's greatest wish for their daughters and the sad thing is no one is making the parents aware. Whether if the teenage girls are going through a crisis and wanting the attention sexually because, they feel that's the only way they can get it or if they really are curious of what it feels like to kiss a girl.

Either way a majority of them come to terms with their preferred sex within the next few years. Since emo girls kissing is so common we should take note and figure out what we can do to make it easier.

A Depressed Emo Girl
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It's often sad that girls are faced with this dilemma of others so they are silently screaming so loudly to get help. Parents need to sit down with these girls and get to where they mind is.

No one is going to understand there teenage daughter, especially with what exactly going on but, if they are not even trying then that only makes the girl feel even more unloved.

It is not fair to be a parent and not take on the parent responsibilities. A parent is to guide their daughter through their insecurities and problems. Not ignore them hoping that they will get out of whatever they are going through on a daily basis.